Thoughts on Marriage. Thoughts on Divorce.
“A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman
committed to strive together toward perfection.” (Elder Oaks; “Divorce”, Ensign, May 2007)
committed to strive together toward perfection.” (Elder Oaks; “Divorce”, Ensign, May 2007)
Thank goodness this is truth. I believe this with all of my heart and I also try to live this way, as well.
I am a big proponent for families. I love hearing that two people are striving together, day in and day out,
to keep their family together. I have seen throughout my life the effects that divorce has on a family and it
makes me sad, especially for the children, that people have to go through this trial. It seems like, from an
outsider, that there is much heartache, stress, unhappiness and loneliness because of divorce.
I am a big proponent for families. I love hearing that two people are striving together, day in and day out,
to keep their family together. I have seen throughout my life the effects that divorce has on a family and it
makes me sad, especially for the children, that people have to go through this trial. It seems like, from an
outsider, that there is much heartache, stress, unhappiness and loneliness because of divorce.
“What, then, might be “just cause” for breaking the covenants of marriage? Over a lifetime of
dealing with human problems, I have struggled to understand what might be considered “just cause”
for breaking of covenants. I confess I do not claim the wisdom or authority to definitively state what
is “just cause.” Only the parties to the marriage can determine this. They must bear the responsibility
for the train of consequences which inevitably follow if these covenants are not honored. In my opinion,
“just cause” should be nothing less serious than a prolonged and apparently irredeemable relationship
which is destructive of a person’s dignity as a human being.” (Elder Faust; "Father, Come Home,"
Ensign, May 1993, 35.)
dealing with human problems, I have struggled to understand what might be considered “just cause”
for breaking of covenants. I confess I do not claim the wisdom or authority to definitively state what
is “just cause.” Only the parties to the marriage can determine this. They must bear the responsibility
for the train of consequences which inevitably follow if these covenants are not honored. In my opinion,
“just cause” should be nothing less serious than a prolonged and apparently irredeemable relationship
which is destructive of a person’s dignity as a human being.” (Elder Faust; "Father, Come Home,"
Ensign, May 1993, 35.)
I love the words of Elder Faust on the “just cause” of divorce. No one can judge that except those two parties
that are involved. There is agency involved and sometimes you are a victim to another’s choices that may ruin
or taint the promises that were made when the marriage took place. Elder Faust’s words remind us that we cannot
judge another, only God can. It is up to us our choices of why we do things with the understanding that we will
be judged one day by an all-knowing, all-loving God.
that are involved. There is agency involved and sometimes you are a victim to another’s choices that may ruin
or taint the promises that were made when the marriage took place. Elder Faust’s words remind us that we cannot
judge another, only God can. It is up to us our choices of why we do things with the understanding that we will
be judged one day by an all-knowing, all-loving God.
“When a marriage is dead and beyond hope of resuscitation, it is needful to have a means to end it.”
(Elder Oaks; “Divorce”, Ensign, May 2007)
(Elder Oaks; “Divorce”, Ensign, May 2007)
I think we should try with all of our might and heart to put our marriages, our spouses, and our
children at the top of our lists. The family unit is such a beautiful and sacred thing that cannot be
replaced by anything else. Elder Oaks words teaches us that if the marriage is beyond hope that it
should come to an end. I believe he means that this is after you have done all that you could to revive
this relationship.
children at the top of our lists. The family unit is such a beautiful and sacred thing that cannot be
replaced by anything else. Elder Oaks words teaches us that if the marriage is beyond hope that it
should come to an end. I believe he means that this is after you have done all that you could to revive
this relationship.
I have a friend who is separated from her husband, a friend who is divorcing her husband and one
that threatens divorce with her husband. It is so hard to watch these families dissolve before your eyes.
I want to yell, “Stop! Wait! Are you sure?!” It’s hard to know what has gotten them to this point and if
there is anything else they could have done to save what they had promised each other long ago.
that threatens divorce with her husband. It is so hard to watch these families dissolve before your eyes.
I want to yell, “Stop! Wait! Are you sure?!” It’s hard to know what has gotten them to this point and if
there is anything else they could have done to save what they had promised each other long ago.
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